Learning how to recognise Love in your life - Action #4 - Love Inside Out
After a good two weeks break (much needed), I am happy to be back here in the Blog with another action for Love Inside Out – A guide for living a wholehearted life based on love and kindness.
Before we start, let’s recap what we’ve seen so far.
We started from the beginning (obviously) with Action # 1 - CHOOSE LOVE – which is the very first step when it comes to making a commitment to living a life based on love and kindness. It all starts from this point. If you’re joining the party just now, which is perfectly fine, I would recommend you to go back to Action # 1 and do the suggested exercises before you carry on.
Moving on to Action # 2 – LOVE & ACCEPT YOURSELF - we called the responsibility back to us to deeply understand and embody the idea that love starts with us. We can’t expect to truly love others and love life if we don’t love and accept ourselves truly, the good and the bad parts, all of it.
On Action # 3, we created the courage to go out there and SHARE THE LOVE with the world. We came to understand that giving love to the people around us and to the world, is a very important piece of the puzzle when it comes to living a wholehearted life based on love and kindness. We get what we give out to the world.
The next stop of the journey is Action # 4 – LEARNING HOW TO RECOGNISE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE – Whaaat? Ok, let’s break it down. Have you ever paused to really look at your life and to acknowledge what you love and what you don’t love about it? Have you every questioned yourself about what is working and what is not working in your life?
It’s time to turn your attention to that my love, and I am here to help you do that.
This is super-duper important for one very basic reason:
You might already have a life you love, but maybe you are too caught up in the past or too anxious about the future, that you simply do not appreciate the beauty and the blessings you already have. If this is you, raise your hand!
If you said yes to this one, please don’t feel bad. This is more common than you think and honestly, appreciation and gratitude for what we have is a feeling that comes and goes. I strongly recommend you start working on it if you haven’t already. We live in a society that is constantly telling us that our lives are not good enough or fun enough, and that the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side. In this social media era we live in, it’s very easy to get lost in the rabbit hole and believe that everyone else’s life is cooler and better. The first thing I am going to ask you to do is to unconditionally believe that your life is and always will be the best one, simply because it is yours and no one else’s. Your life is like a huge blank canvas upon which you can create whatever you wish.
The first step here is taking a moment to look at all the different areas in your life and really pay attention to them. Think about every single area that matters to you: social life, career, relationships, health, personal development, you name it. Go beyond thinking. Notice what you feel when you think about each one of these areas.
Next step is getting a piece of paper (which will work as a blank canvas), coloured sticky notes and pens and whatever else encourages your creativity to come forth. On this blank paper, write down all the areas you want to explore a bit further (i.e. relationships or career) and answer the question below – I will use relationships as an example today.
WHAT DO I LOVE ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIPS I HAVE IN MY LIFE?
I will ask you to be brutally honest here. Write down every single thing you love about the relationships you have in your life. No matter how small they are. Write them down. You have to be able to get them out of your head and onto the paper so you can really see them. Acknowledge each and every single one of them. When you’re done with the brainstorming phase, take a moment to pause and look at the overall picture. Notice how you feel. What have you learned? How does having these things in your life make you feel? To get you one step further, express your deepest gratitude to each item on your list. Be grateful for what you already have in your life. This will elevate your energy so you can vibrate in the frequency of love, which is the best we all want to be right?
The next question to be answered is...
WHAT I DO NOT LOVE ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIPS I HAVE IN MY LIFE?
This is not an opportunity to complain about your life (if that’s what you had in mind) and also, it’s not something to make you feel bad. What I am interested in, by asking you this question, is raising your awareness towards those elements in your life that are not working anymore, that no longer serve you and that potentially you would be better off without. Maybe you are spending too much time and energy focusing on what you don’t love and on what is not working anymore rather than dedicating your time and efforts to those things that really make your heart sing. This is super energy draining and let’s be real, your energy is beyond precious!
Again, I will ask you to be honest and real and write down all those things that do not resonate with you and that do not bring you joy anymore. The first step towards change is to acknowledge what has to be changed. Be patient, you don’t need to change your life overnight. One step at a time.
The next step is to recognise and appreciate each and every single one of the things that you listed. Can you somehow feel gratitude for them? These feelings, people, situations, whatever you came up with, might not be of service to you any longer, but they are certainly part of your journey and have supported you at some point. Spend some time trying to connect to that feeling and be grateful for what they have taught you.
The third and final question is...
WHAT IS THE ONE STEP I CAN TAKE THIS WEEK TOWARDS CHANGING WHAT I DON’T LOVE?
Every journey starts with a first step, an initial action that invites all the others to unravel. Maybe your first step is making a strong decision or a new commitment. Maybe you need to quit that course. Find a new job. End a relationship. Start a relationship. Join the gym. Learn a new skill. Forgive yourself. Forgive someone else. Launch the course you’ve been planning for months. Write your first blog post. Record that podcast you’ve been dreaming about. Buy a flight ticket to a place you’ve never been before. It doesn’t matter what it is that you want, there is always a first step you can’t take that will move you closer to creating the change you wish to manifest.
Remember. Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t expect to change your life upside down overnight. If you know how to do that, please share the secret with me. When dealing with our feelings, emotions and personal growth we have to be opened and patient to do whatever work in ourselves necessary so we develop the abilities we need to create a life we are truly and unequivocally inspired by. One step at a time, consistent action and inner work will take you where you want to be. Keep showing up for yourself and you will be amazed with the changes you can create.
And then you move on to the next area of your life, and the next one and so it goes until you mapped out the whole thing. I promise you this exercise works. It supports you in owning your life and most importantly owning yourself which will take back to your wholeness.
And that's it for today lovely people! I am so happy to have you here. My name is Ange. I'm a Life Coach, Yoga Teacher and Meditation Guide and my biggest passion is to support you on your journey to become the happiest you've ever been and live a life based on a purpose.
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